Marilyn Monroe on how to make something good even better

When we take on a complex skill such as learning the classical guitar, we’re bound to learn something that we need to change later.

It happens to us all. We do our best with what we know. But eventually we know more, and recognize new opportunities for improvement.

Some call it “creative destruction”. Some call it “breaking eggs to make an omelet”.

Some say that “what gets you out of Egypt won’t get you to the Promised Land”.

Eventually, we have to release what we know or do and start fresh with something different.

It can be hard to swallow. We may resist it. But if we’re honest, we usually know it’s for the best.

It’s tempting to mourn “lost time”, or feel it’s a setback.

But it couldn’t be any other way. We had to learn as we did to get to this point. And to move ahead, we may have to accept our limitations and “start over”.

But it’s not starting over. We bring all we’ve learned with us. We grow stronger for the new perspectives and challenges.

Sure, we may not sound as good for a little while, but this pulling back creates the momentum to thrust us forward to the next level and beyond.

We’re pruning. We’re culling. We’re winding the spring.

And to feel good about letting “things fall apart so better things can fall together”, we have to keep the big picture in mind.

It’s not about one piece of music. It’s not about being “right”, or being at a certain level (“I’m a Grade 6 player, so I’m beyond XYZ…”).

We live on a constant growth curve. The more we can stay objective and unattached, the more versatile and flexible we become.

Instead of protecting and guarding what we already know, we can open to new opportunities and ideas. We can take a childlike attitude of openness, and then make educated decisions based on honest review and experimentation.

There’s an age-old proverb that we can “never step in the same stream twice”, because the water has changed and so have we. We grow as musicians with any focused practice we do, even if we decide to go another route later.

“Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
Marilyn Monroe

Hi, I’m Allen Mathews.

I started as a folk guitarist, then fell in love with classical guitar in my 20’s. Despite a lot of practice and schooling, I still couldn’t get my music to flow well. I struggled with excess tension. My music sounded forced. And my hands and body were often sore. I got frustrated, and couldn’t see the way forward. Then, over the next decade, I studied with two stellar teachers – one focused on the technical, and one on the musical (he was a concert pianist). In time, I came to discover a new set of formulas and movements. These brought new life and vitality to my practice. Now I help guitarists find more comfort and flow in their music, so they play more beautifully. Click here for a sample formula.

After more than a year as a member, I remain impressed with the Woodshed, song courses, Tuesday quotes, weekly lessons, and the CGS community. Without my membership, I think my enthusiasm for learning classical guitar would have faded long ago. Instead, I am enjoying the process as I make steady progress in my playing.

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